1. Timing;  as soon after the offense happens so there can be direct association between the punishment and it’s consequence.
2. Get alone; retreat with the child to your bedroom or a private place so further embarrassment can be minimal.
3. Reflect grief; the child needs to see that your countenance is one of remorse over the offense.
4. Establish God as your authority; “Honey, God has given ME the responsibility to correct you when you disobey.”
5. Clearly identify the offense; “You are being punished because you hit your sister.”
6. Reaffirm your love; “I’m your daddy and I will always love you, even when I don’t love your behavior.”
7. Pray with them; while in prayer, the Holy Spirit will give you help in determining how painful the punishment needs to be, and you will cool down your emotions.
8. Apply the Rod of Correction to the Seat of Understanding; a 3/8 to 1/2 inch wooden stick works well and only applied to their bottom where they have plenty of nerve endings and flesh with little chance of injury. Your hands should not strike them as it comforts, supplies, and instructs them.
9. Immediately following the corrective measure, embrace them and reaffirm your love and expectation for their improved behavior.
10. It’s all over. They have paid the penalty and life is good once again.

These are effective steps in appropriately correcting children for disobedience.