Proverbs 3
If you love your children, you will discipline them.
There needs to be a cutting away of the unwanted behavior. How do you know it’s still there? …. YOU’LL KNOW!
It’s very important to make sure a child knows you love them, but that you don’t love the unacceptable behavior they are displaying.
The best way to discipline a child is with the rod, a 3/8″ to 1/2″ wooden dowel. We used to use a wooden kitchen spoon. We also found a blue stick that was the right size … thick enough to bring pain without any injury. (Our children had a reverence for that stick) The “rear end” has plenty of nerve endings that can relay the message without injury.
Always make sure they know exactly what the offense is. Tell them God holds you responsible to correct them. Pray that they will “hear” the rod … clearly get the message why they are being punished. Make sure you land the rod ONLY on their rear end. Never use your hand. It’s a symbol of love and provision. Reaffirm your love for them with a warm hug. Look for brokenness and repentance.
It’s done. It’s over with. The happy life can resume. When they are disciplined immediately after an offense, they can more clearly associate the punishment with the undesired behavior.
These steps of discipline were taught to us when attending Bill Gothard’s seminars. We used them on our children. They were effective and our children have avoided some of life’s hard lessons.